Thursday, October 16, 2014

Making a Difference - Gun Goddess

Athena, aka Gun Goddess ( is a competitive shooter, a business woman and a really nice person.  Gun Goddess, which made it presence known in the market a mere 3 years ago filled a void in the market, specializing in women specific products.  Since then, Athena has launched some men’s, or gender neutral, products; but her passion is still focused on helping women find fun, functional, gun related items.  She works tirelessly to find new products, or works with vendors to create them just for her.  I have enough of her pistol cases, in leopard and zebra, to prove that.  From Gun Bling to jewelry to range bags and more…

Unlike some businesses, Athena doesn’t just color a product pink and call it a woman’s product.  She researches, interviews and personally tests her products.  If she wouldn’t be comfortable using it, you will not find it on her site.  That is the definition of integrity.  Customer Satisfaction and good Customer Service are crucial aspects of her business model. 

Check out the website, I promise you will find something to love, or if you are like me, LOTS OF THINGS TO LOVE!

Meeting Athena at Shot Show 2013



Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Introducing The Home Security Handbook

It is available on the major sites in paperback or e-book.  All kinds of tips on home, travel, traffic stops, kids, college…in an easy to read, down to earth compact book.  I think of it as the little book that delivers big!  At just 109 pages, with lots of pictures, it is a deceptively quick read.  Deceptive in that there is so much information you may be surprised it is such a small package. 

With an awesome foreword from Mike Seeklander, co-host of The Best Defense, and genuinely nice guy, this book delivers lots of tips.  This is not a read once and put away.  This is something you can turn to before traveling for reminders, or pass on to your kids as they are getting ready to go off to college. 

Ok, I’m a little bias.  This is my second book, put out by Skyhorse Publishing (Thank you Skyhorse!)  But the reviews have been great, and I hope you enjoy it as well.

Monday, September 8, 2014

Female and Armed welcomes 4 Associate Instructors!

Some say a good man is hard to find.  That may be so, but I found four of them and they have stepped up to join the team at F&A.  Each of these men is a very talented instructor in their areas of expertise and, most importantly, they are all very good at working with women (having taught with all of them I can say that), and sometimes it is good to have a man to demonstrate advanced defensive techniques.  It is my honor to teach with each of them.

We’ve come a long way in the last year.  The home training parties are a hit, and it has the added benefit of keeping costs down for students.  We have added basic personal defense and advanced defensive techniques to the curriculum.  My second book is now available on Amazon and other outlets.

As we close in on the 1 year anniversary of F&A, llc, it is time to look back and see the amazing things that have happened.  New courses, a new book, lots of learning, adding additional instructors.  This has been so much fun I can hardly wait to see what the 2nd year will bring!

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

So Busy!

I apologize quite sincerely to you all.  Time has gotten away from me.  Some of you know that I’m going through a difficult time in my personal life, and that has had me quite distracted.  I really haven’t felt like writing when I didn’t actually have to.


I did recently get together with some wonderful folks for a Range Day, courtesy of John at FPF Training.  I needed pictures for an upcoming book on Advanced Defensive Techniques, and John was kind enough to let us use his beautiful range.  The day was gorgeous!  Great friends, lots of green, fresh air, awesome photographers and LOTS OF GUNS!  What could be more fun than that?



I’ll be sharing photos from that day over the next weeks.  I got to try some new techniques, some of which I can tell you work, but encourage you not to try them unless you have to use them to defend your life.


One of the most profound things that day was a discussion of aftermath.  Everyone was a credentialed instructor in their own right.  All experienced shooters.  We all learned from each other but the one thing that touched one of the women deeply was a discussion of aftermath.  To illustrate, I told a story from my own life.  Back in the mid 80’s (I know, some of you weren’t born yet!) I was stationed in Korea.  It was common for me to go hiking in the hills beyond the town outside of the base where I was stationed.  I was young, fit, invincible, and the Korean people were wonderful, polite and generous, so I never had a moment of fear.  Besides, I had taken lots of self defense classes.


Well, one day, my world turned upside down.  I came up on a man who managed to convey that he would like to pay me for sex.  My Korean was pretty bad, as was his English, but I got the message.  He offered me everything he had which translated to about $7.00.  To this day, I’m not sure which offended me more, the proposition or the amount.  LOL  I declined and kept walking, he grabbed me.  Everything I had ever learned went right out of my head.  I slammed both hands into his chest, palms flat, knocking him down, and I ran.  I didn’t stop running until I was almost back to the base.  I never even looked back.  I went straight to my room, and then to a hot shower.  I felt violated, scared, and couldn’t stop shaking.  Then, it dawned on me.  I knew all these things I could have done and I didn’t do any of them!  What was wrong with me?  It took a lot of nudging by some very caring friends to get me out of the dorm and at least out in public the next day but I continued to question and second guess myself for several days.  I finally went to talk to a counselor.  She turned out to be wonderful.  She listened to me beat myself up for what I could have done and then gave me the magic answer.  I was safe.  I had not made the situation worse, I did exactly what I had to do to get away.  No more, no less.  I did the right thing.


That was a turning point for me.  I now share that story when I teach basic unarmed defensive tactics.  I teach simple things, easy to remember, easy to do and encourage the students to do the minimum it takes to get away. 

This message resonated with one of the women who had found herself in a situation where she reacted and got to safety but went through the same second guessing that I had, except she had not found a caring counselor.  She didn’t realize that what she experienced was normal and it was ok, until that moment.  Talking privately later, we both got a little emotional.  It touched my heart to know that someone else had been touched by my story.


I hope you never have to experience it for yourself, but remember, what you feel after is normal and if you are safe, you did what you had to do, including not making the situation worse.


Safe Shooting

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Personal Alarms

I'm a huge advocate of the little Personal Alarm, it is a great noisemaker and distraction.
I've carried a device from Sabre Red for years on the outside of my purse, but was recently introduced to what can only be called it's big sister!

Athena, at told me she had just started carrying a personal alarm from Swiss Tech and I had to check it out.  Price point is similar but there in not comparison in value!

This little beauty had a flash light, a flashing red strobe, a replaceable battery, an option lanyard, a removable belt clip and a replaceable battery.  Oh, and it make a lot of noise when you push the panic button!  I added a split ring to mine so I could more easily hang in on my purse, but this little baby is awesome!!!

Head on over to Gun Goddess, and check this out as well as the other wonderful offerings.  She is expanding her personal defense line and helping use all be safe, in addition to the other awesome fun things you can find there!!
Safe Shooting!